PLENTY OF DIFFICULT FINANCIAL DECISIONS will come your way as you approach retirement, including questions about Social Security and Medicare, and how best to draw down your retirement assets. But before you even begin to tackle those issues, it helps to have a broader, more personal conversation about what you want your life to be like in retirement.
How will the two of you spend your days? Are there new pursuits you'd like to try? And how important is it for you and your spouse to have a shared vision for retirement?
Use this checklist to get the conversation started. You may be surprised to find that you're not on the same page about some things right away. But keep talking. Make this conversation part of an annual heart-to-heart about your life together—where you are and where you hope to be.
1. Will we retire at the same time?
Many couples find this the toughest question of all to resolve. One of you may be looking forward to winding down a satisfying career, while the other is still enjoying the pace of full-time work. "Examining the financial impact of different retirement dates can help a couple get past their stalemate," says Karen Burns, head of the Goals Based Consulting Group at Merrill Lynch.
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That was the case for Jerry and Gussie Isler (pictured above). Jerry, who owned an auto industry materials distributorship in Michigan, was looking forward to taking it easy. But his wife, Gussie, who managed a number of rental properties, wasn't quite ready to retire. Working with their longtime Merrill Lynch Financial Advisor, Sharon Oberlander, they explored how different retirement dates might affect their cash flow and retirement lifestyle. Eventually they settled on a strategy that called for Jerry to retire from his business at age 55, then for both of them to run Gussie's rental properties for 10 years before retiring together. "I encouraged Gussie and Jerry to begin thinking about when they wanted to retire early on, so they'd have a plan in place to make the transition a smooth one," says Oberlander.
"Statistically, women may live 10 years longer than men," says Burns. "Particularly when a wife is the younger spouse, there may be a good reason for her to keep working a while longer, so that she won't outlive their retirement savings." Having one spouse work longer may also make it possible for one or both spouses to delay claiming Social Security benefits—a choice with a concrete financial reward. "For every year you postpone receiving payments, you increase the size of your benefit," says Anthony Webb, senior research economist at the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College. "And your spouse will also be in line for a larger survivor's benefit."
2. How will we spend our days?
Decisions about travel, family time, volunteer work and other retirement pursuits are as individual as the couples who make them. But different choices carry different price tags, so it's important to have at least a broad outline of how you want to spend your time together. Olivia Mellan, a psychotherapist, money coach and author of Money Harmony: A Road Map for Individuals and Couples, asks each spouse to make a list of short- and long-range retirement objectives and then to revisit it several times. "If the same goals keep reappearing as you get further into thinking about what you want, you can trust those to be true priorities rather than something off the top of your head," she says.
"Spouses don't have to have the same investing style, but their investments need to work together so that they're properly diversified."
—Sharon Oberlander,Merrill Lynch Financial Advisor
The next step is to harmonize your separate lists, which may require months of back-and-forth. "You have to be willing to consider what it's like to be in your spouse's shoes," Mellan says. "That sets the stage for resolving your conflicts instead of locking into opposite views and blaming each other for your differences."
3. Where will we live?
Your choice will most likely have a major impact on your retirement finances. Downsizing to a condominium could free up cash to bolster your savings and might also reduce outlays for property taxes and upkeep. Houses age, too, and if you keep the family home, its maintenance needs are likely to increase. On the other hand, relocating could boost—or lower—other expenses. State income taxes and local property taxes, as well as the overall cost of living, can vary widely by location.
Stacy Allred, managing director at the Merrill Lynch Wealth Management Center for Family Wealth Dynamics and Governance™, remembers a couple who were trying to decide whether to stay in California or move to Washington State, where their adult children had settled. The decision became much easier when their accountant mentioned that Washington has no state income tax. Nor do six other states—Alaska, Florida, Nevada, South Dakota, Texas and Wyoming—though some impose other levies, such as Washington's state estate tax.
4. Whose investing style will we follow?
"Examining the financial impact of different retirement dates can help a couple get past their stalemate."
—Karen Burns,head of the Goals Based Consulting Group, Merrill Lynch
During your working years, you and your spouse may have managed your own 401(k)s and IRAs in line with your individual risk tolerances and investment preferences. That doesn't have to change as you move into retirement, but it's important to work with your financial advisor to coordinate an overall portfolio that serves your mutual goals. "Spouses don't have to have the same investing style in retirement, but their investments need to work together so that they're properly diversified," says Oberlander.
As people live longer, it's also "increasingly important to continue to explore investment strategies that will help your portfolio continue to grow even as you begin to draw down on it," says Debra Greenberg, a director in the Personal Retirement Solutions Group at Bank of America Merrill Lynch.
5. Will we leave our money to the kids or to charity?
That this question even comes up means that you've worked through the basic issues, but it may still inspire passionate conversation. Allred recalls one heated discussion between a self-made businessman, who felt strongly that his children should have to make their own way financially, and his wife, who was adamant about sharing their wealth with the kids. Their solution was to establish a multigenerational health and education exclusion trust, or HEET, which is designed to see to it that the children and future descendants will not have to worry about medical or college costs. The couple also agreed to help their children with home purchases and to set aside a fund for each child to cover emergencies or retirement. Satisfied that they had responsibly provided for their children, they gave the rest to charity.
3 Questions to Ask Your Advisor
- Can we both afford to retire now?
- How will claiming Social Security affect our taxes?
- What strategies can help our investments continue to grow after we retire?
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