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Helping the next generation become homeowners

With inventory shrinking and interest rates higher, getting a foot in the door of the housing market can be a challenge. Here are some ways parents and grandparents can help.


It’s a tricky situation for would-be homeowners. Mortgage rates are at 20-year highs, and tight inventory is propping up prices and crowding out buyers who can’t make a substantial all-cash purchase. In this market, millennials and Gen Zers, held back by student loans and high rents, are at a particular disadvantage. That makes the role of parents – who have long been a go-to source for financial help – even more critical today. In a recent survey, more than three-quarters of homeowners under the age of 30 said their parents helped them secure their first home.1


Current estate tax laws make this an especially attractive time for parents and grandparents with the financial wherewithal to help young family members take ownership of their first home, notes Rocky Fittizzi, wealth strategies advisor at Bank of America Private Bank. That’s because the lifetime gift tax exemption — $12.92 million for a single person and $25.84 million for a married couple in 2023, and set to increase to $13.61 million per individual and $27.22 million for a married couple in 2024 — is scheduled to be sliced in half in 2026, barring any changes from Congress. “Now is the time to take advantage of this window to make large gifts to reduce your estate,” he says.


If you want to make a substantial gift of a home, you have several ways of doing so, from funding all or part of the purchase price to acting as the bank. To decide which approach may be most appropriate, you need to consider factors like taxes, estate plans, credit risks, control of the property and family dynamics. “No two children are the same, and no two situations are the same,” Fittizzi says. Here are some options worth weighing.

Gift them with cash to purchase the home

The most straightforward way to get young family members on the property ladder is to simply give them the cash – either for the down payment, the entire purchase price or something in between. The annual gift tax exclusion is $17,000 per donee in 2023, or $34,000 per donee if you and your spouse split the gift. The annual gift tax exclusion is set to increase to $18,000/$36,000 in 2024. Any amount below those limits won’t count against your lifetime limit. A gift above them would use your lifetime exemption, but not result in a payment of gift taxes.


With any estate planning strategy like this, you’ll want to consider how to help one child or grandchild in a way that’s fair to other siblings or cousins. “Kids may be resentful if their home cost less than a sibling’s,” Fittizzi says. “It is worth having the conversation on equalization if members of the family believe this could be an issue and cause long-term disharmony.”


What to watch for: If the home becomes a marital asset of the child, it could be an issue in a divorce. Even when you have confidence a marriage will last, a trust strategy (see below) could help alleviate any lingering concerns.


Buy or finance the home through a trust

Having a new or existing trust purchase the home gives the trustee control of the property and offers a measure of protection in the case of divorce or other claims. At the same time, it adds greater complexity. While there are many ways to structure a purchase in this way, the most common is for a parent or grandparent to set up an irrevocable trust for the benefit of the child and then make a gift to the trust. The trust would buy the home and allow the child to live there rent-free, establishing terms for how ongoing costs like taxes and maintenance will be covered.


With an existing trust that benefits a child, you might also consider having the trust lend the child money to buy the home, which can allow for flexible loan terms. One advantage to this is that the child can build equity over time and eventually own the home outright.


What to watch for: An approach this complex requires careful planning with your advisor and a tax professional. One downside for the child to consider is that they are not building up equity when the trust owns the home, which could work to their disadvantage over time.

Graphic showing what portion of first-time home buyers got help from parents and the type of help. See link below for full description.

Source: YouGov, “One-third of first-time American homebuyers got financial help from their parents,” May 25, 2022.

Buy the home and rent it to your child

This approach makes the most sense if your child is going to use the home only for a few years — perhaps for college— and you expect to eventually convert it to a vacation home or income-producing investment property.


What to watch for: The rent you collect from your child is taxable income, and this strategy may run counter to your larger financial goals. “If kids are paying rent to their parents, that goes back into an estate that the parents may be trying to dilute,” Fittizzi says.


Act as the banker

With stubbornly high home prices and interest rates, parents or grandparents may want to function as the bank. When you lend your children the money to buy a home directly, they can enjoy easier access to credit as well as more favorable and flexible loan terms – including an interest rate lower than that of the typical mortgage.


To make the deal even better, you can periodically gift at least a portion of the interest. “Basically, you set up an interest-bearing promissory note, then at the end of the year, you can consider forgiving the interest to be paid up to the annual gift tax exclusion threshold,” Fittizzi says. However, that interest income will still represent taxable income.


What to watch for: So that the IRS won’t consider the initial intra-family loan a gift, you must adhere to certain guidelines, including charging mandated minimum interest rates. Recently that rate has been between 4% to 5%, depending on the length of the loan. Given the current high rates on savings, however, making an intra-family loan isn’t the win-win it once was. You may actually lose some money if you lend at a rate below what you can earn on your cash.


Another option is to borrow against your portfolio to raise funds for your child or grandchild, which lets you leave the stocks and bonds you’re using as collateral invested in the markets. Keep in mind that rates on these loans have risen along with all interest rates, so borrowing costs could exceed your potential investment returns. “Now the rate is much higher, around 8%, like a mortgage,” Fittizzi says. “But at the same time, it might be the right option for some families.”


Team up on the mortgage

Co-signing or guaranteeing the mortgage is another way you can help a child or grandchild qualify for a better rate or larger loan. You agree to the terms of the mortgage but owe nothing (and own nothing). This can be a learning experience for the child. “You’re building in a security net if you’re co-signing, but at the same time you’re not letting your child off the hook,” Fittizzi says. “It’s part of the educational process of paying bills.”


What to watch for: Co-signing makes you responsible for the debt. If the child can’t keep up payments, you are putting your own credit at risk and may have to pony up for mortgage payments. In some instances, there could even be gift tax implications for your willingness to co-sign or guarantee the mortgage.


No matter what strategy you adopt, you should revisit your plan annually. “If interest rates drop in the years ahead, we are having a conversation about refinancing,” Fittizzi says. “If the estate tax exemption is cut in half in 2026, it might make sense for some people to consider other strategies to get additional assets out of their estates. It’s important to note that this is an ongoing conversation, not a set-it-and-forget-it situation.”

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1YouGov, “One-third of first-time American homebuyers got financial help from their parents,” May 25, 2022.


Merrill, its affiliates, and financial advisors do not provide legal, tax, or accounting advice. You should consult your legal and/or tax advisors before making any financial decisions.


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