By Iván Rothkegel

 

I’M A U.S. CITIZEN OF CHILEAN DESCENT. Like most Hispanics, I primarily identify as American — unless, I have to admit, the Chilean men’s national soccer team happens to be playing the U.S. squad. But there’s one allegiance that, for me and many Hispanic people, supersedes nationality. That’s family.

 

It’s a key value in our culture, as it is in many others, to protect and care for parents, grandparents, even aunts and uncles. We saw this recently in my wife Ximena’s family. After her grandmother suffered a stroke that left her partly paralyzed, the family held a series of meetings. It was decided that my wife’s sister, who had a bigger place, would take her in. (At the time, her sister was also raising four kids, ages six to 15.) Everybody else would pitch in to help pay for a nurse and meet the other expenses. And we all took turns visiting to make sure Ximena’s grandmother was never by herself.

So it came as no surprise to me that affluent Hispanic-Latino individuals are four times more likely than the general population to cite assisting aging parents as one of their most important financial goals. That’s one of the findings in a 2020 in-depth study, “Diverse Viewpoints: Exploring Wealth in the Hispanic/Latino Community,” conducted by Ipsos in partnership with Merrill. In total, according to research from AARP Public Policy Institute, nearly 7 million — or about 17% — of family caregivers in the U.S. are Hispanic-Latino.⁶

 

“No one tells you that you have to take care of your parents. It’s just what we do,” says Kenneth Correa, head of Business & Client Development at Merrill, whose mother emigrated from South America as a young widow to raise her son alone. Correa is now focused on providing her with a comfortable retirement.

 

“Providing financial support for your elders has major implications for saving, investing, budgeting, housing and more,” says Merrill International Wealth Advisor Sergio Mejía. “When you’re taking care of your parents and your own kids, the margin of error is often so small,” Correa adds. “That’s why planning is critical, and the sooner you can start the better.” Of course, that’s easier said than done, but it helps to begin with a roadmap. Working with an advisor, anyone who anticipates caring for elders as they age can begin to put a plan in place. Here are some steps you can take to get started.

 

Talk openly with family members

Use these questions as a guide when you bring family members together to discuss how your parents or other aging family members want to be taken care of. Do it before anyone needs help, so that you can make thoughtful decisions, says Ben Storey, director, Retirement Research & Insights, Bank of America. Strongly encourage your parents to get a will and power of attorney — if they don’t already have one — as well as a healthcare proxy to spell out who will make key financial and medical decisions if they can no longer do so themselves.

 

“And don’t assume both parents have the same idea,” says Storey. “Hear everyone out and try to find common ground.” In addition to the legal documents, he suggests setting down in writing everyone’s shared responsibilities — especially who’s on board to provide financial and physical care. Include a contingency plan in case the designated caregiver isn’t able to assume — or has to leave — the role.

 

Set savings goals and stick to them

“When you’re focused on immediate financial needs, like caring for your parents, you can end up diverting funding from your future,” Storey notes. To help avoid that risk, Mejía suggests setting up two separate portfolios — one for your own retirement, one for your parents’.

 

While both are critical, your own retirement should be considered the more important, he says. “If that means contributions to elder care funding are modest at first, that’s OK. You can attach different risk levels to the two portfolios, based on when you’ll need the money.”

 

Consider long-term housing needs

“Many Hispanic-Latino families prefer having elderly parents move in with them rather than entering a care facility. That can require a bigger house,” Storey notes, or elder-friendly renovations to an existing home, such as updating lighting, adding grab bars and handrails or creating a first-floor bedroom to limit the need to use stairs. He suggests asking yourself, “Will you able to renovate or purchase a larger home down the road?” Your advisor can help you with potential strategies to prepare for the costs, he adds.

 

Looking after elders can put a disproportionate burden on women, who often wind up shouldering the bulk of in-home care, notes Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology at Bank of America. “Women sometimes wind up cutting back on work in order to manage elder care, which can affect their ability to advance in their career and save for retirement,” she notes. One answer for both men and women managing caregiving needs is hiring in-home help, but that can be expensive. Your local Area Agency on Aging, a non-profit designated by your state to provide elder care resources and services, can also be very helpful.

 

To make in-home care more affordable, consider pooling your resources — which also alleviates the burden on one specific household, as was the case with my wife’s grandmother. Having siblings or cousins contribute a set amount to a joint account every month can be much easier than dividing expenses on a one-off basis, says Mejía. It can also save the designated bill-payer from having to go to everybody for a handout every time an invoice comes in.

 

While some families choose to have older relatives under the same roof, others may prefer providing them with a nearby house or apartment. That gives the parents a measure of independence while making it easier for you to help when needed. Make sure your parents or older relatives have a chance to express their preference. For example, my father, independent and happy with his pension at age 84, has decided he wants to live on his own as long as he can.

 

Treasure all the special moments

Above all, remember to treasure all the special moments that happen when aging family members are an integral part of your life. When I think about Hispanic-Latino families, I think about the weekly ritual many have maintained for generations: Sunday lunch at the parents’ or grandparents’ house. It’s a noisy gathering that includes siblings, everyone’s kids, aunts, uncles, cousins and so on. It’s also a deeply reassuring tradition and one that generally doesn’t end when one generation gets too old to host it. It simply shifts to someone else’s home — yours, or one of your siblings’, and maybe someday your own kids’.

 

Taking care of elders as they age is a continuation of that tradition in our culture. As Correa puts it, “Being able to help your elders is not just an obligation but a joy.”

 

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Iván Rothkegel is a freelance writer and translator covering Latin American and business and finance issues at many publications, including The Wall Street Journal. He is not affiliated with Bank of America Corporation or any of its subsidiaries.